Ultimate Sex Tips for Married Couples
Posted: Sep 06 2015
I know people who have been married for over 50 years. I’m often a bit confounded as to how that happens – how do you spend your life with someone for that long without at least a few stabbings? The answer must be the sex. I’ve been married for a decade and I can say from experience that keeping things interesting in the bedroom is not only completely necessary, but also incredibly difficult to do. So, in the interest of championing marriage everywhere, here are the ultimate sex tips for married couples. See if a few of these can keep your marriage going for a half a century or more!
The Newlywed Game
For most newlyweds, sex is frequent and still exciting. You’re in love and you’re with someone that knows you better than any other person on the planet. It’s a special time, but you have to be careful because when you’re too comfortable with someone is when it can be easy to let things slide. Let’s face it, after the ring is on the finger some of the pressure to keep up the relationship is off your shoulders. Plus, once you’re living day to day with another person then work, money, family and at some point children will take over your life and that can leave little room for sexual excitement. But, that doesn’t have to be the case. Staying aware of the pitfalls of marriage and the sex slump that eventually happens in any long term relationship is the first step in helping to maintain an active and healthy sex life.
The Power of Touch
For both newlyweds and couples that have been married longer, one of the things you can do to increase intimacy is to just touch each other. In fact, studies have shown that hugging for 30 to 60 seconds increase your happy hormones and help you to feel more connected to your spouse. So, whether you’ve been married for one month, one year or twenty years, there’s a lot to gain from just reaching out and touching your partner.
The Birds and the Bees
This next piece of advice still firmly falls into the ultimate sex tips for married couples category, but when you read it you’ll probably make a face and say “uh, duh!” The thing is, communication is one of the most important aspects of a marriage both in and out of the bedroom, and if you don’t talk about how things are going between you in the sex department, and let your desires and expectations be known, that is a recipe for disaster. Are you making a face? Well, as someone who has been married for a third of my life I have to say that it’s easy to let communication slide, so remember to make time to talk things out.
Get Your Priorities Straight
Speaking of making time, not to take the romance out of it but if you want to have sex regularly you’re going to have to make time for it! Let’s face it, when you’re with someone all of the time it’s easy to assume that you can have sex when and where ever you want. The problem is that if you don’t make time for it, then most likely it’s not going to happen. You have to remember that sex is how your stay connected to your partner and express the love you feel for them. It also helps to make each of you feel more desired. You lose that, and happiness can take a nosedive in the relationship. Sex is important, people!
Think Outside The Bedroom
A healthy sex life a cornerstone of a good relationship and you just can’t let things get boring! Sex is also not a synchronized activity where you know all of the moves your partner is going to make each and every time. To be frank, that’s just boring, but it’s a trap a lot of long term couples fall into. So, spice it up with surprises and think outside of the norm. Ladies, go to bed one night only wearing jewelry. Fellas, amp up the romance and then surprise your lady with a moonlit stroll and get it on outside. The possibilities are endless; you just have to keep using your imagination and keep your partner guessing. Personally, I’ve found that prostate massage has really taken my long-term relationship to the next level – just saying!
Make Room For Love
It may not be something you really think about, but the décor in your bedroom can have an impact on your sex life. When you’ve got a crib in there or you’ve got huge piles of laundry all over the place that doesn’t exactly get you in the mood. Take a look around your room and find the trouble spots and then fix them. Make your room a sanctuary for the two of you to use as a getaway from the every hectic pace of life. And while you’re out it, make it a kid-free zone. Admittedly, this can be difficult to do but also entirely worth it. Your kids, if you have them, have a tendency to take over your life and have the run of your home. Draw the line and make your room off limits so that it’s a place the two of you can share together.
Your Safe Place
To end this on a positive note, just remember that the biggest benefit to married sex is that it’s your safe place. Your partner is the one person that you can share everything with, even things you may be too embarrassed to share with other people. So, tell your partner your fantasies and don’t be afraid to try out a little kink you might want to try. This is how you keep things exciting and new with someone whose face you have memorized.
So, remember that of all of the ultimate tips for married couples when it comes to sex, the best one is to just remember why you fell in love with your partner and never to forget it. Then bang their brains out, well and often.