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The Ultimate Gal’s Guide to Threesomes

Posted: Jul 30 2015

The Ultimate Gal’s Guide to Threesomes Intro

Every time I watch a professional rugby match, my mind wanders into threesomes. Something about hot, sweaty, muscular men in little shorts jumping all over each other just makes my mind go there. Strange, I know. The problem is, I find myself being intimidated by handling just one man in bed, how would I deal with two or (gasp!) another woman? It’s complicated. There seems to be a ton of guides for men when it comes to having a threesome and surprisingly little for women. Let’s remedy that right now and talk about things every girl should know before embarking on this triangular task.

Would This Be Casual Or Serious?

Step one is to take a cold, hard look at what it is you really want. If you have a partner then talk to them about what it is you hope to get out of this sexual quest. Ask yourself if it should it be a one-time deal or a hookup on the regular? Would it be casual or serious? Would all three parties be getting it on at once or would you switch up and do a little back and forth while one person watches? There are a lot of things to consider and you owe it to yourself to take a look at what you want and then decide if you want to do it.

Next, think about what kind of threesome you have in mind. After all, there are M/F/M, F/M/F, and F/F/F match ups. Which one do you want? Just remember that it’s not advisable to do this with someone you know if you’re not going to be comfortable seeing them socially after the event goes down (Did you catch that pun?). This seems to be more of an issue if you’re a couple looking for a third, because doing it with someone you both know can add some strange dynamics to the relationship. Weigh the pros and cons of going with a friend versus a stranger and just make sure that no matter who you choose you go into it with both eyes open. And don’t forget, you could always hire a professional. That’ll take any possible emotional baggage off the table. Plus, you’d have their expertise to fall back on!

Avoid Leaving Out Someone

I know that my biggest concern when thinking about a threesome is positions. If you want to avoid someone feeling left out then you have to make sure that you plan ahead for positions that will be able to include everyone at once. I’ve found that a lot of face sitting is involved in optimal threesome sex positions and I fail to see how this is a bad thing. I guess what I’m saying is that you need to do your research and have some positions filed away in the old mental file cabinet.

This sexual situation is no time to be shy about who you are and what you want. Do you need to be reassured? Cuddled? Do you like it rough? You have to negotiate and set boundaries and expectations to make sure that everyone has the best time possible. Boundaries are probably the single most important thing that needs to be explored before having a threesome. Will there be intercourse? Oral sex? Anal sex? Spanking? Be loud and proud about what you want.

Protection Is A Must!

In a threesome you cannot be diligent enough about protection. Having fun means that everyone is safe and secure and knows the past sexual history of the person they are having sex with. I don’t want to rain on anybody’s parade, but it’d probably be best if you just assume the people you are with have a STD and treat the situation accordingly.

This is a great chance for you to explore power dynamics too. After all, we’re talking two on one here so there’s no better time (if you’re comfortable) to explore bondage or have one person be dominant with the other two. Again, just talk about these things before hand and negotiate.

If you have decided to try this with your partner then it might be a good idea to let them pick the person of the same sex that you’re bringing into your bed. If it’s a girl, then you pick. It gives the person of the same sex the power and may help to stave off any feelings of jealousy.

Above all you really just need to remember to take care of yourself. Aftercare is a big deal and also something that you will need to communicate to your partners. If you’re the third wheel of the scenario, then think about what you can do after to help you deal with the feelings you may have. Hang out with friends, go shopping, or get a pedicure. Make sure whatever you decide you need after the experience is worked out beforehand. You are a strong and confident woman and you just had an experience you will remember for the rest of your life!

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