Your Definitive Guide To Personal Lubricants Slippery Hot Sex!
Posted: Jul 18 2015
It is my deeply held belief that a lubricated vagina (or penis or anus) is a happy one. Of course, there are always scenarios where personal lubrication is a must, but I’m not sure it’s used nearly as much as it should. It is a fact that personal lubricants make sex feel better. So, why aren’t you using them? If you’re not sure where to start, because let’s face it – there are lot of different products out there, then check out this easy to understand guide to personal lubricants that we here at Joy Sex Toys Online have created just for you! So read on to find out why lube is the unsung hero of mind-blowing sex.
The Goldilocks Rule of Lube
When dealing with personal lubricants it can be difficult to judge how much you need. Too little won’t do the job and too much will kill the friction – and you have to have a little bit of friction! You’re looking for how much is just right. This question isn’t as easy to answer as you might think, though. Using lubricant is easy, but choosing the right lubricant is where the real challenge is. You have to experiment with different kinds, and we’ll talk about those in a minute.
It’s probably best to start out with just a little bit of lube. Use a small about, about the size of a small coin, on your fingers or in your palm and then apply the lube. Every lubricant is different and so is every user and the only real way to know how much you need of the kind you’re using is through experimentation.
Why You Should Lube It Up
There are so many reasons why using lube during sex is the way to go. First, including it in foreplay can really take the experience to a new level in so many ways. You can use it to massage your partner and then transition into sexier times and it really heightens your sense of touch and that’s never a bad thing during sex!
You also have to consider that the mind may be willing but the body may take a minute to catch up. If you use lube then it gives enough time for your natural juices to get flowing.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: sex is awesome, but chafing is not. Using lube helps to protect your most sensitive areas and also moisturizes them as you go. I see no down side to that! Plus, there’s evidence to suggest that lubricant use will make you less prone to bladder infections.
One of the biggest reasons to use lube is to prevent condom breakage. I don’t know about you, but in my experience condoms seem to zap all moisture straight out of the vagina. If you use lube along with condoms – problems solved!
Most of the lubricants you’ll see on the market today are water-based and for good reasons. As far as lubes go, this one is the most versatile. It’s safe for most sex toys and latex contraceptives. They’re also easy to clean up and most are formulated to be non-irritating. You have to be careful, however because some can have glycerin in them which can cause yeast infections. They do tend to dry out quickly, but that’s nothing a little saliva or just slapping a bit more on won’t fix.
There are a lot of options when it comes to water-based lubricants as well. You can get organic, edible, warming and lubes designed just for the clitoris or for anal sex. As a matter of fact, Joy Sex Toys Online offers a whole line of Intimate Earth lubricants that has about every option under the sun when it comes to your water-based lube needs. You can check them out and see exactly how many options there are for you!
This type of lube lasts longer than water-based ones. You need to know that you cannot use this type with silicone sex toys due to silicone-on-silicone reactions, but they can be used with latex contraceptives and sex toys that are not made of silicone. As with any lube, you should really test this on your first to make sure you’re not a woman who is easily irritated by silicone. Also, note that this kind of lube is more difficult to wash off bedding and clothing, plus they are more expensive than water-based lubes.
This category of lube is made up of things like Vaseline and vitamin E oil. While these are awesome for handjobs, they are not safe for use with latex products, like condoms, or rubber toys. Oil-based lubes can break down the latex, so they may be more appropriate for people in monogamous relationships who don’t use condoms. Plus, they’re pretty messy and hard to clean up because of their thicker texture. If vitamin E oil appeals to you, then you need to first make sure your partner is not allergic to it.
If you’re going to have anal sex, you have to have a lubricant. You can use any kind you wish, but there are anal lubes out there that are specifically formulated for anal play. Often, the lubes made just for anal have a numbing effect, which can be helpful if you’re new to the anal game. Consider yourself warned, though, that if the lube is numbing the bum it’ll be numbing the penis too, so it may (for better or worse) make your man last longer. There's something important worth mentioning here, which is that pain is not a bad thing. I don’t mean that in some kinky way either, what I mean is that it’s your body’s way of telling you when something isn’t working. Numbing your anus as a newbie to anal play may end up with you injuring yourself, and that’s not a great introduction into the world of anal sex. My advice would be to use a good quality lube for anal and forego the numbing sensation.
Anal lubes are available as water-based or silicone-based, and the consensus is that although both work you may just want to go for the silicone when incorporating lube into anal sex. This is because it has a thicker texture that lasts longer. The only thing you have to keep in mind about silicone anal lube is that it cannot be used with silicone sex toys. You wouldn’t want to chance messing up your favorite anal toy with a lube mishap!
Climax Control Lubricants
Just as the name implies, these are special lubes for guys who may be a little too eager and pop their top off a little early. These lube contain benzocaine, which causes numbing in order to help a man hold off the big O. It’s best to use these types of lubes with condoms and to apply it to the inside tip. Remember, you’re looking to numb him, not you.
I mentioned these under the water-based lubes, but it’s worth repeating and going a little more in-depth about them because they’re so much fun! Primarily, these are used for oral sex. I know what you’re thinking: why would you need a lube for oral sex because that’s what saliva is for. I have to admit that I was under this impression for a long time too, but the truth is that flavored lube can add a new dimension to oral sex for both the giver and the receiver. They not only taste good but adding a little extra lubrication to the act adds to the sensations for the person receiving the oral pleasure too.
The only caveat with these is that because they contain sugar they can cause yeast infections if used for vaginal sex. Sugar is the food from which little yeasty grow, so adding that to the vagina is a bit of a recipe for disaster. There are, however, sugar-free flavored lubricants out there that eliminate this concern.
If you’re part of the au natural crowd, then these just might be the personal lubricants for you. They don’t use chemicals, but instead all natural ingredients like vitamin E, carrageenan, and aloe. This makes them very moisturizing and long lasting, all without yucky chemicals that came from a laboratory.
If you’ve had problems with allergic reactions to other lubes, then try giving all-natural lubes a shot. These lube come in sprays, gels, flavors and help you to feel good about the environment too! When’s the last time you felt down right eco-conscious when you chose a lube?
I think one of the biggest advantages to these types of lube is that aside from not having all those chemicals in them, they leave your skin feeling super soft. Two birds, one stone!
Aloe is at the forefront of the organic lube market. If you’re an organic gal or guy, you may as well go all out with it and include your lube in the list of things that you are going organic with! You don’t have to worry about parabens, glycerin and other types of yucky non-organics in this lube. You may have to hunt a bit for aloe-based lubes that are also organic, but they are out there. Just make sure to check the label.
Warming & Cooling Lubricants
These lubes remind you just how much fun sex can be. Warming lubes warm upon contact and can be great if applied to certain spots. They get warmer because of the chemical capsaicin, which puts the hot in hot peppers. It shouldn’t hurt you, but do remember that if you’re sensitive, you may want to avoid lube like this.
Cooling lubes add a tingling feeling when applied. Usually, it’s mint or menthol that’s been added to them in order to produce this effect. I personally find that hot and cold sensations, when applied correctly, are awesome during sex. So, I say unless you have had reactions to things like this in the past, there’s no reason not to give these lubes a try!
We’ve mentioned parabens a few times in this guide, but do you know what they are? They’re a preservative that keeps the shelf life of your lube long. They inhibit bacteria growth, which may not sound bad, but that is not the whole story. The issue is that we’re not exactly sure what parabens do, and since this is something that a woman is placing inside of her body, you may not want to take the risk. I would really encourage you to do your own research about parabens and make up your mind on them yourself. And if you decide to avoid it, you will need to be diligent about checking product labels to see if you’re exposing yourself to them.
Do you feel like an expert on lubes now? You should! Personal lubricants are varied and plentiful, and navigating them all can be a bit of a daunting experience. I hope this little guide has educated you and maybe even convinced you to try a few different kinds of lubes out there to see which one is right for you! I’d love for you to go out and try these and then report back here with your favorites!