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A Beginner’s Guide Using Bondage Sex Toys

Posted: Jul 11 2015

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Getting bored of your regular sexual escapades? Looking to spice up your waning sex life? Forget foreplay and your run-of-the-mill sex toys, get into bondage! I have personally experienced the joys of transitioning from traditional sexual pleasures to sinful, yet innocent sexual bondage. Now before you judge me and decide that bondage sex is too extreme for your tastes, just forget the hardcore kinky porn that has literally given bondage a bad name. And remember that you don’t have to be hung upside down in some pervert’s basement to get the real feel of bondage.

 

If all your knowledge about bondage is the culmination of watching sadistic BDSM porn, you probably haven’t the slightest idea of what it is and the kind of benefits you can derive from it. And take it from me, there are definitely a number of real-life benefits to bondage and the use of bondage sex toys, even if getting it from behind while hanging on a sex swing isn’t your idea of sensual pleasure. You just need to put the “50 Shades of Grey” mentality aside for a while and realize that bondage sex toys can be enjoyable, even if you’re the wine and chocolates kind of girl or guy. Let’s see why:

 

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1. Bondage Can Enhance Your Sexual drive

 

Certain bondage techniques, coupled with the right bondage sex toys and a non-sadistic partner, can stimulate various erotic pressure points in your body that you never knew existed. The use of bondage rope, a mouth gag, and handcuffs, if not fitted on to you like a detainee at Guantanamo, can lead to some truly unique sexual pleasures. Another thing you should realize is that a lot of people, apart from the feeling of doing something truly naughty, tend to exhibit lower levels of inhibition when they're tied up.

 

2. The Endorphin Rush

 

Bondage using sex toys and other types of playful BDSM can cause your body to release massive amounts of endorphins, chemicals that your body produces when brought under stress and other related phenomenon. Some of these chemicals have been considered to be more powerful than morphine. Your body might also release oxytocin, the hormone that contributes to the emotional feeling of bonding. You might even produce dopamine, giving you a natural and guilt-free high.

 

3. Bondage Is Freedom

 

Rubbish? I think not. As ridiculous as it sounds, the feeling of being tied up and sexually stimulated can cause you to simply give up and surrender to your partner, resulting in an ironically freeing sexual experience. Just as you’d prefer someone to cook for you or drive you around, as opposed to doing it yourself, bondage can be very freeing and stress-relieving.

 

4. It Creates An Instant Connection

 

Bondage is an out-of-the-box sexual tool that can help you experience something that you’ve never experienced before. So, not only will it help you spruce up your sex life, but it can allow you to create a concrete bond with your new partner or reignite your passion with your current one. This intimate connection created between partners by indulging in bondage or using bondage sex toys is one that can seldom be replicated by any other means.

 

5. Escape Reality

 

A hard day’s work, an exhaustive trip abroad or even your kids pulling on your nerves throughout the day can all forgotten by divulging into the erotic world of bondage sex toys. For some reason, being tied up can virtually force you to stop focusing on the troubles of real life and make you come closer to your body’s sexuality. It will help you get out of the mindset of the mundane and transport you into the present. Because honestly, it’s quite difficult to think about that fight you had with your colleague at work, when you're tied to a bedpost with your eyes blindfolded, wondering what your body is going to experience next.

 

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Types Of Bondage Sex Toys

 

Now that you’ve been enlightened about the joys of bondage sex, let’s talk about the really interesting part, the toys!

 

1. Basic Kit

 

For those of you who are entirely clueless about what a bondage sex toy experience can feel like and have no idea where to start, there’s no better way to start than by tying up your partner and indulge in some light bondage play. Once you’ve gotten comfortable with that, you can buy a basic bondage kit, which is pretty much a BDSM starter pack that includes equipment like handcuffs, wrist and ankle restraints, a blindfold and other amateur bondage sex toys, depending on the kind of kit you buy.

 

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2. Spanking Paddle/ Bat

 

Want to experience the same sensual feeling that Anastasia Steele felt in 50 Shades of Grey? Then nothing will match quite like a spanking paddle. In fact, a spanking paddle is probably a staple in any bondage-inclined individual’s cupboard. The best part about a spanking paddle is that you or your partner can control the speed and ferocity with which the spanking happens, apart from saving your bare hands from going numb with redness.

 

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3. Bullet Vibrator

 

Although not categorized as an explicit bondage sex toy, a bullet vibrator is a great tool for anyone looking for clitoral stimulation and is also a great toy for beginners because it might afford some familiarity. But in the context of bondage, it would be best if you hand over your prized vibrator to your partner and let him do some exploring of his own. After all, a big part of bondage sex is allowing someone else to do kinky stuff to you.

 

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4. Ben Wa Balls

 

Ben Wa balls are one of the most instantly recognizable bondage sex toys in the planet, featuring in every BDSM porn video and even a number of mainstream movies. As simple as they seem, Ben Wa Balls have been scientifically designed to strengthen your kegels, or pelvic floor muscles (the ones that keep your vagina tight and firm. This toy is extremely easy to use and relatively safe, just remember to keep the stringy end pointing outwards.

 

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5. Ball Gag

 

Another staple of the bondage sex toy catalogue, the ball gag is a kinky and fairly diminutive device. If you’ve ever longed for a silent yet rough sexual encounter, then this toy is definitely for you and you’ll definitely be surprised at how enjoyable it can be. But, it’s important to remember that this toy is an acquired taste, and isn’t for everyone. A lot of use feel it to be fairly degrading or even obstructive. So, do check with your partner before you buy one.

 

6. Pinwheel

 

Now I’m getting to the darker side of bondage sex. We all love to try new things and experience new heights of sexual pleasure, but experimenting with bit of pain is probably not everyone’s cup of tea. The highly-erotic pinwheel is both a pleasure and a pain, depending on how you’re using one. Either way, if you’re even a bit skeptical of its use, it’s best to just skip this one and stick to the gentler toys.

 

7. Feather Teaser

 

If you’re a tease or someone who likes to get teased, nothing is going to hit your sweet spot like a feather teaser. Whether it’s at the beginning of your session, the climax or the end, a feather teaser goes a long way in sexual stimulation and works best when used on the most sensitive parts of your body. For this, I recommend that you keep your eyes closed and your senses relaxed, to feel the tantalizing sensation of this simple yet effective device.

 

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8. Sex Swing

 

If you enjoy having sex while standing up, you probably won’t want anything else apart from the door swing, Not only does it make standing sex more pleasurable, but it is also a breeze to use. So much so, that you might just end up switching to the sex swing permanently!

 

9. Nipple Clamps

 

If the sound of it made you cringe a little, you’re free to move on to the next toy. But, if it gave you slight tingling sensation, this is the perfect toy for those looking to try something a bit more daring. Nipple clamps are unisex bondage sex toys are best suited for anyone who prefers chest stimulation the most. And although it does sound painful, trust me, they’re absolutely harmless.

 

10. Vibrating Cock Ring

 

You now know that the bullet vibrator is a great way to make things exciting for you and your partner, but did you hear if its little cousin, the vibrating cock ring? Basically a toy for your boy, the cock ring is a deceivingly small and simple device that will give you and your partner intense stimulation during sex or foreplay. The cock ring is another perfect bondage sex toy for couples that haven’t tried any kind of sexy toy before.

 

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Some Useful Tips

 

By now, you’re probably pretty knowledgeable about the pleasures of bondage sex toys and various kinds of toys you can buy to get things started. However, seeing that bondage is a comparatively extreme form of sexual play, there are a number of precautions you should take when it comes to engaging in bondage or even using bondage sex toys with your partner. And although it is fun to allow someone else take charge or your sexual pleasure every once in a while, keep these useful tips in mind before you get at it:

 

First of all, make sure you know what you’re doing, with what you’re doing. There’s always that one off horror-case where someone has torn something somewhere or has gotten a sex toy stuck in a very peculiar spot. And I imagine that you wouldn’t fancy walking into your family doctor’s office with an inappropriate sex toy lodged into an inappropriate place! This also means that bondage sex toys are best used with a clear mind, so at least one of you should be completely sober when indulging.

 

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1. Trust

 

Now it’s pretty obvious that no girl, or guy for that matter, is going to want to be tied up by someone that they don’t know or trust completely. Your partner needs to be able to trust you with the fact that you’re not going to harm them physically or verbally in any way, or worse, click incriminating photos of you to blackmail you with later or spread on the internet. There’s even the ridiculous possibility that you just tied your partner up so that you can go and have a ball with your friends or for some alone time. So, just make sure that your partner knows that they’re in safe hands with you.

 

2. Safe-word

 

Just to be clear, I didn’t pick this up from “50 Shades of Grey.” When engaging in sexual bondage, there’s a very high probability that you might end up doing something that you’re not entirely comfortable doing, making the need of a safe word a reality. Make sure that it’s something you definitely would never say during sex, even if it’s a turn off. This can include the name of your ex or even a parent!

 

3. Use Safe Materials

 

For first-timers, the thought of being bound by thick leather straps or crude cable-ties might seem appealing, but I can tell you that they hurt like hell, especially in the long run. You run the risk of cutting off blood circulation, splintering or worse, scarring! You can use a number of everyday comfortable devices like neck tie, scarf, or even stockings. And if there was ever a time to seduce your partner in a sexy and sultry voice, this is it!

 

4. Tease Her

 

Remember that bondage is primarily a female-centric practice and is supposed to allow you to focus on your woman. So, it’s important to invest some time in teasing and pleasing your partner when they’re all tied up. Bondage means extra attention to him or her. So, foreplay and dirty talk should be the norm.

 

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