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Threesome Sex Tips Don't Pick A Friend!

Posted: Jun 18 2015

I bet if you take an impromptu survey on the street most people would admit to finding the idea of a threesome sexy – probably because they are! If you and your partner are considering a threesome here are a few things you should think about before you take the train to Threesomeville.

How To Avoid Awkwardness

To kick this off let’s go with some common sense tips – or they should be common sense if you want to avoid awkwardness! Do not pick a friend. I repeat, do not pick a friend. If you do it could change the whole dynamic of the relationship and that could be bad. Because if you see them socially, you’ll only be thinking about having a threesome with them whether you want to or not. You also don’t want to bring anyone into your bed that you know well either. Someone you work with, for example, or someone you must see on a regular basis should be out!

Also, don’t bring someone into bed with you and your partner that one of you has romantic feelings for. And don’t think there’s no one else out there your partner may have romantic feelings for! Having feelings and acting on them on two separate things. And a separate blog post.

Threesome Sex Tips Don't Pick A Friend!

Relax Stay Calm

Now, once you get there make sure to stay calm. I know, you’re having a threesome (squee!) but you’ve got to keep a handle on it. Have ONE drink to take the edge off.

Make sure that you also work to build the intimacy. You’re getting ready to have sex with these people, so getting comfortable with each other while still clothed is important. No one wants their sexual fantasy to play out like an awkward secondary school dance.

Staying Safe While Having Fun

You must must must use protection. If you take nothing away from this whole thing just remember that STD’s are not fun and you do not want one.

How To Stay Tuned In

Once you get started, try your hardest to make sure no one is left out. This is the most challenging part of a threesome, especially if you’re with your partner. Just remember, this is everyone’s fantasy so do your best to make sure that they’re getting the fantasy they signed up for.

If you find yourself on the outs take control and keep yourself involved. Touch, lick, and kiss. Do not sulk in a corner, as that is decidedly unsexy and very unfantasy-like.

If one partner leaves the room to use the bathroom or get a glass of water then make sure you stop. This goes back to the “don’t leave anyone out” suggestion.

Make Sure Everyone Is Comfortable

I know that we’re talking about having sex, and threesomes usually involve intercourse, but you really need to discuss penetration beforehand and make sure everyone is comfortable with it. Also, try not to leave marks on anyone’s body; it’s just bound to complicate things when it comes to threesomes.

You have to think of a threesome as a selfless act. You are giving a gift to these two people and if you get off then good for you! The key to success when it comes to a threesome is to make sure that everyone else is having a good time. Chances are this will lead to your own good time.

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Make Sure To Ask

If you find yourself questioning something you’d like to do, make sure to ask. Ask the third person as well as your partner. You don’t want to do something that is going to make your partner upset, and that’s why discussing boundaries beforehand is important. Still, something may come up that you have not discussed so don’t be shy about asking.

The Fear Of Being Left Out

You also need to make sure you’re not giving too much attention to the third person. I think this might be every person’s fear about having a threesome with their partner – that your partner will completely ignore you and just get it on with the other person. Make sure to make a conscious effort to avoid that.

Orgasms: they’re really good. The problem with them is that once you have one or two or five, the excitement begins to wane. You have to make sure that everyone orgasms close to one another in order to avoid someone getting bored or not being into it anymore. And the final orgasm should only be achieved with your own lover. Trust me, it’ll just make things better.

It’s really important to make sure there’s distance between you, your partner, and the third party. Don’t have the third person stay the night. Don’t cuddle them in post-coital bliss. Don’t become their best buddy. This can be achieved by being very clear about boundaries, because if you can’t tell by this point, boundaries are really important when it comes to a threesome.

The most important thing for you and your partner to remember is that there is nothing you shouldn’t be able to talk about before, during and after the experience. Even if it’s something that might seem silly, bring it up. Talk it through, because shared experience like threesomes can really help to bring you closer together.

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