The Best Sex of Your Life With Someone New
Posted: Jun 10 2015
Sex With A New Guy
I remember one time I had sex with a new guy and it was mind-blowing. It was perfect sex – on top of a piano, actually. No, wait – that was Pretty Woman. I get confused with fantasies and real life because the fact of the matter is that sex with someone for the first time can be incredibly awkward. I’m going to let you in on a secret: it doesn’t have to be. It can, in fact, be some of the best sex of your life.
It’s ok to admit that before you hop in the sack with someone for the first time, you’re going to be a little nervous. What if you really like this person but find out they can only get turned on if you’re squatting on a coffee table in nothing but a grass skirt. I think that’s a realistic fear. But if you follow these simple steps, you don’t have to worry.
If you’re out together before the main event, do a lot of kissing and touching. It sets the stage for what is to come and can make you a lot more comfortable by the time you get to the bedroom (or piano). It also helps to build anticipating, and everyone knows that’s one of the best things about first-time sex –the buildup! Wear something that makes you feel sexy, and you may even want to try to masturbate a little to get a little bit aroused beforehand.
Sex Is Like Real Estate
First-time sex is a lot like real estate – it’s all about location. It needs to happen someplace where you will both be comfortable. If your potential partner has five really loud roommates or, heaven forbid, lives with their parents you may want to scope out someplace else. If you’re hosting, play some sexy music, put on new sheets, light some candles and make sure to de-clutter. Put the teddy bear you’ve slept with since you were 3 away. You may also want to do away with the smiling picture of your parents on the bedside table. That doesn’t scream “mind blowing sex”!
No matter what, do not skimp on the foreplay! This is the only first time you’re going to get with this person, so there’s no need to rush it. Take it slow and try to really connect with them, build up the arousal and relax. The best sex is unhurried sex!
I think a lot of times things tend to go south in the bedroom because we psych ourselves out. Don’t get too caught up in your own head, make sure you are in the experience and living it instead of just letting it happen and worrying about how your stomach looks in this position. To make sure you can live more in the moment, think about how your partner’s lips feel on your body, how awesome they look or how their hands feel. Turning off your brain and just feeling can be a huge help!
Set Your Sexpectations
Some of the best sex is also sex that meets your expectations, so while the tips I’ve just given you can help to make the experience more pleasurable you also need to keep your feet firmly planted on the ground. If you set your sights too high then you will be disappointed. Instead, think of this like an adventure where you’re getting to learn your new partner – that’s the best part. What surprises do they have for you that will make this sex the best sex you’ve ever had?