How To Have Insanely Good Anal Sex
Posted: Jun 12 2015
Porn Is No Magical Treasure Map
I don’t know about you, but my group of friends does not get together on Friday nights over drinks and share anal sex stories and tips. In fact, I’ve only had a few very stilted conversations with people I know about anal. It just happens to be one of those things that people either love or hate – there’s no in between. So getting pointers and tips if you want to try it can be difficult. And porn is no magical anal sex treasure map either. If you try to do that stuff you’ll end up sitting on a donut pillow with your neck in a brace for 4-6 weeks. So, what are nice and very normal people who want to explore the pleasures of anal sex to do? Well, you’re in luck! I’ve compiled this handy little guide to help you navigate the lube infested waters of ass play.
Is Anal Sex Going To Be Messy
For starters, I think a lot of people think anal sex is going to be messy. I don’t think that’s an unfounded fear. Everyone has heard that story about your sister’s best friend’s brother’s cousin and anal gone awry. But believe me when I say that this is a total misconception. A man would have to have a penis roughly the size of what I imagine Thor’s must be in order to get to the gross stuff. The truth is that anal is really erotic and may just be one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences of your life, if done right.
Is Anal Sex Painful?
Another thing people assume about anal is that it’s going to be really painful. Truthfully, it can be. But, if you have a partner who is willing to go slow and take time to prepare you for what’s to come (which is hopefully both of you), then it will be a lot easier preparation is the key here.
If you want to try it but aren’t sure where to start, let me help you out. The first step is to feel comfortable. Take a shower first and then start slow. Begin with a finger, then maybe a small butt plug. If you go right with the penis is may not be a good experience for either of you. Here’s a pro-tip, as you explore the ass play make sure to pay special attention to your erogenous zones. Anal sex is best when you are very turned on, so play with your nipples or your clit a little as you have your partner explore your back door.
If you don’t feel comfortable with penetration the first time you explore this, then don’t do it. You can enjoy ass play even if you’re not ready to go for the gusto. Get to know your brown button – play with it, fondle it, stroke it and swirl around it. See how it feels and then just do what you think is right.
Newbie First Time
As a newbie, when you try it for the first time you’ll want to adhere to a few tips. Try doing it by yourself first. Get to know it by sliding a lubed finger in and seeing how it feels. Practice control of the muscles around your sphincter and go with what feels good (listen to your body). Also remember deep breathe to relax. If you hold your breath then it can cause you to tense up and that is no good for anal. And most importantly, remember that too much lube is a good thing when it comes to backdoor action.
For you seasoned pros out there that might be looking just to spice things up, I’ve got a few tips for you too! Have you tried stimulating the anus with your tongue? It can be a great way to get your engine warmed up before the main event. I also can’t express enough the pleasure that involving your vagina in anal sex will bring. Once your partner is fully seated, try working a dildo or vibrator in. Double penetration is, in a word, insane. Insanely good. Also try the “lap dance” position if you haven’t yet. Your partner sits in a chair while you straddle him. This gives you control of the movement and it makes for a sexy view –though the music is optional. And let’s not forget that that throwing in toys like a vibrating penis ring never hurt anybody.
No matter if you’re a newbie or a pro, just remember to always be safe. Use condoms, and never put something that has been in your bum into your vagina without giving it a wash first. If anal sex isn’t your thing, that’s ok. Just having an open mind is all you need to have a great sex life.