Is Anal Sex Messy? The Truth.
Posted: May 29 2015
Since it’s just us girls here, I’ll be honest and say I avoided ass play for years. Many, many years. My partner tried and tried to convince me to give it a go, but I was resistant. To me, the ass was an exit only orifice. But once I tried it – I felt like an idiot for not giving it a try sooner. So, don’t let any preconceived notions you may have about some ass play relegate to a life without the miracle that is the most incredible orgasm you will ever experience. So, let’s talk frankly about anal sex and how you can enjoy it to its fullest.
You Need Alot Of Lube
A lot of women are concerned that anal sex is bad for them. I think that’s a realistic concern, since it seems like the anus wasn’t meant to be penetrated. But, you don’t have to worry about hurting yourself if you follow the rules. Yes, that’s right, there are rules and they’re pretty simple. You have to really want to do it, as in you have to be really turned on, you have to take it slow and you have got to use a lot of lube. Remember, the ass doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina, so you need all the lube you can use. And in the case of lube in relation to anal, too much is always better than not enough!
I realize that saying “a lot” of lube isn’t exactly specific. While there’s no specific measurement, you will want to make sure you give the penis a generous coating and then use your fingers to rub it around your anus and up inside of it. That should do the trick.
The kind of lube that you use is up to you, but there are some that are better suited to anal. Glycerin based lubes generally won’t last long enough, so using a silicone-based lube will be better. Using a longer lasting lube will keep you from having to stop, reapply and then reinsert. No one wants to do that!
Is Anal Messy?
So, is anal messy? I know I was concerned about this one but my concerns turned out to be unfounded. I mean, I had crazy visions of what might happened, but there was really nothing to worry about. If you have normal bowel functions, there’s really no need to worry.
Ok, now for the question you really want the answer to – what about the orgasms? Every woman has the ability to orgasm physiologically, and anal is not different in that respect than vaginal sex. In fact, if you’re having anal sex doggy style, the penis can rub right up against the g-spot but from the other direction. It’s really a sensation words cannot do justice to, you just have to try it for yourself.
Speaking of doggy style, what positions can you have a little backdoor action in? Doggy is a submissive position so you may not be comfortable trying anal for the first time that way. I would really suggest a spoon position where you lay side by side. That’s a great starter position.
Average Penis Can Not Hurt You
Some men can worry that if they thrust in too far they can hurt you. Sure, it’s possible, but this is a concern that has more to do with their egos than reality. The average penis is 5 inches or less and that’s not going to do any damage. Sorry guys.
You may want to use sex toys, like anal beads or butt plug, to help get yourself ready for the deed. You just need to remember to use something that has a wide base. It is possible for something to be sucked up into the anus and you’ll have to get professional help in order to have it removed, and that’s a scenario I think we all want to avoid. Also, using things that are meant to be inserted into a body cavity is advisable. Just do an internet search for things found up people’s asses and you’ll understand what I mean.
Remember, too, that there’s no “I” in anal sex – it’s a team effort! He shouldn’t just push his way in. You need to relax and breathe out as he slowly tries to ease himself in. If he’s too eager it’s going to painful and it’s not going to earn him a repeat performance.
In the end (ha!), anal sex is an awesome thing. I’ve experienced the pleasures and never had fecal incontinence, I don’t wear adult diapers or go around uncontrollably passing gas all day. I have a partner I trust to do it right every time. I wish the same for all of you!