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Your Guide to a Smokin’ Hot Threesome

Posted: May 25 2015

Threesomes in movies are totally hot, but I have a fear that any I am involved in would be more like Zoolander than anything else. Let’s face it, if you’re going to explore the sexual triad you want it to be the hottest experience of your life! Well, have no fear. There is a formula to a smokin’ hot threesome, and I’m about to let you in on all of its secrets!

Your Guide to a Smokin’ Hot Threesome

If You're Single

If you’re single and looking then you may want to try out the internet. There are plenty of sites to go to, but as with any version of online dating you are bound to meet more than one weirdo. Make sure if you’re hooking up with strangers that you meet them, in public, first. My advice would be to avoid anyone that seems to have a penchant for keeping organs in jars.The biggest thing that will make or break your experience is who you ask. This can be particularly dicey if you’re part of a couple. Finding a singleton is the best bet for a couple and someone that you don’t know all that well is also advisable. If you decide to go with a stranger then you don’t have to worry about seeing them socially and having this be awkward, so score one for strangers! Although with a stranger you do run the risk of STD’s (guide to download for free) or potential stalkers, so you really have to choose very carefully.

How Do You Ask

So, once you find the person you think is right, how do you ask? Your best bet is to keep it light and casual and drop hints by referencing movies or celebrity open relationships to test the waters and see how the other person feels about it. If you get a positive reaction from the toe-dipping, then be a little more direct but still casual. Something along the lines of “We/I want to have a threesome and you seem like you’d be into that. What do you think?” If this is someone you know you’ll have to be clear that you don’t want it to impact the relationship you currently have with them. If it’s a stranger, then it’s worth it to take the time to get to know them a little and become more comfortable. Are you attracted to them? Can you trust them? These are important factors.

Once you’ve secured the participants, it’s time to take care of some business. If you’re doing this with your partner then you both need to set rules and boundaries in advance and then communicate that to the third party. Do you want to have oral sex?Anal sex? Penetration? Will fruit be involved? Only do what you all are comfortable with and clearly state what your limits are. Safewords are also a good idea and it can be a way for you and your partner to communicate with each other if one of you feels things aren’t going well.

Ok, so now it’s time to get busy! What kind of supplies should you have? Condoms, of course, are a must have. And if it’s one man with two women, don’t forget to switch out the condoms between partners. Lube (click here for another blog post guide), sex toys (click here for another blog post guide), kumquats (that one is my suggestion), toy cleansing wipes and probably a towel or two are great things to keep near. Remember that toys should be wiped down between uses!

Setting A Comfortable Environment

You’re naked and ready and – you all just look at each other. What now? Don’t overthink it! Have a drink, some nibbles, chat a bit, flirt – someone is bound to make a move eventually. Massage is also a great way to introduce intimacy. Or a good old fashion game of strip poker!

Positions Are Important

Positions are important in threesomes. You don’t want anyone to feel left out, so finding positions that will include everyone is key. Make sure to do some research beforehand and have some ideas to bring to the table (and maybe include doing it on a table). If you type in “Threesome Sex Positions” into a search engine, that should take care of it.

Be Creative

Once you start getting things going, don’t just stick to one thing. Make sure that you pay attention to body language and sexual cues so you know when things are going well or not so good. Let motion be your guide and if it ever seems like someone is being left out, get creative with the use of your hands and mouth to make sure they are included.

After it’s all said and done what now? This is something that should be talked about before you even begin. What are the expectations of each person after the main event is through? Will you hang out? Cuddle? Say thank you and make an exit? Be sure to be very clear about what is to happen afterward so that everyone can leave feeling great!

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