What No One Tells You About Affairs
Posted: May 12 2015
Affairs Are More Common Than You May Think
Affairs are more common than many people want to think, and they happen for a variety of reasons. I know what you’re thinking, that people who have affairs are bad people. They lack integrity and honor. The thing is, I have integrity and honor yet I still had an affair with a married man. Affairs happen to otherwise good people, and this is my story, a sex story with love thrown in.
I was 24 years old and I was involved in a 2-year relationship with a man that I thought I loved. I thought that we had our lives all mapped out together, and then one weekend changed all of that. I was out for a girls weekend and my boss, who I will call “Ted”, happened to be in the same town for the weekend. We had realized a few days before the trip that we were going to be in the same place at the same time, so we made plans to meet up. My intentions were innocent enough when the plans were made, but once we met up something shifted between Ted and me. It almost felt like I was being pulled by a mysterious force to him and there was no going back.
I know it all sounds very silly and illogical, and believe me I am not a hearts and flowers kind of girl. There just seemed to be some serious chemistry between Ted and me; looking back now I know it was always there, but I refused to see it. Until that weekend.
When we met up I was a blushing school girl again. My thoughts shifted to naughty things that I most definitely should not be thinking about my boss. When I went back to my hotel room that night I tossed and turned all night thinking about Ted. When we met up the next day we ended up in the most amazing conversation I had ever had in my life. I bore by soul to Ted and it felt as natural as breathing. I felt like I had met someone for the first time that really got me, that understood me. We had so much in common. He made me laugh. He got my crazy pop culture references. He loved the original “Star Wars” trilogy.
All of these feelings coalesced in my mind and I understood that my current relationship was not fulfilling. In fact, I felt more trapped than in love. We were comfortable and we had stopped paying attention to each other. I was 24 years old, but I felt 60 when it came to the excitement I felt about my boyfriend. I knew that I needed to do something about it. I had Ted to thank for that.
That evening, I went to his hotel room on a whim. When he opened the door he told me that I looked stunning, no man had ever said that to me before. The air around us was electric and we ended up sharing one of the most passionate kisses that I had ever experienced in my life. We were on the same wavelength and it felt incredible and undeniable. We spent the night together that night, and while I know that on an intellectual level it was wrong, on an emotional level I can’t regret it.
When I got back home I broke up with my boyfriend. When I told Ted what happened he told me that he thought I made the right choice. He also told me that the kiss we shared and the weekend we spent together changed his life.
It may seem wrong to you, but I love this man. He loves me too but is still with his wife. I guess I never thought that I would be the other woman, but now that I undeniably am I don’t feel too horrible about it. It’s not just sex with Ted, it’s love; I regret that his wife may be hurt, but I can’t regret what we have shared together. I feel like he and I were meant to be. This is so much more than a sex story.
The ending to this story hasn’t been written yet. As I said, it’s unconventional, but in its way it is a love story. You can’t help who you fall in love with, after all.